Stay at Home Solutions
Maintain Your Independence

Blog, News, & Resources

Stay at Home Solutions blogs on topics such as aging in place, universal design, adaptive equipment, home modifications, accessibility, durable medical equipment, legislation, and caregiving.

How to Make the Bathroom Safe: A Case Study

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.”




In my line of work, I find that people fight “the old” constantly. I help people find ways to live at home as long as they want, no matter what happens to them in life.

Now you may think that I’m referring to “the old” as in old people. How dare you?! On the contrary, “the old” isn’t people who are getting older! “The old” is how houses are built and set up in the past and today.

Do you have arthritis? Did you get injured in a car accident? Did the doctor inform you that you have a chronic disease? I can help you live at home despite any of those things.

“Building the new” means a couple of things to me too! Of course, “building the new” could refer to professionals in the housing industry creating accessible homes right now. But “building the new” also refers to having a new way of thinking!

Instead of thinking, “Oh, I’ve lived in this house for thirty years, and I’ve always done things this way”, I ask people to be open to the idea that you can live in your house by making minor changes that ensure your safety and independence.



One of my clients, let’s call him Tom, asked for a home evaluation to see what he could do to feel safer while using his bathroom. During assessments, I ask personal questions like, “Do you get tired when you’re showering?”

Tom told me he did feel tired while showering.

Hard fact per the CDC: the most falls that happen at home occur when people step out of the shower.

I told Tom that feeling tired while showering could make it easier for him to fall in the shower and get hurt! Tom quickly countered that he has always stood to take a shower!

My inner dialogue started engaging. I thought, “Oh no, Tom is not accepting the fact that his body is changing and he has different needs then he did decades ago.” Instead of panicking, I knew that I could come to a perfect solution for Tom to provide the support he needed.

During my assessment, I noticed Tom had no place to safely sit in his step in shower. Even if Tom did sit in the shower, the shower head would constantly spray him in the face and he would have no control of where to aim the water!

Well, I don’t want Tom to drown in his own shower!

Tom and I discussed different options on what to do with the shower. An inexpensive way was to use a shower chair that was not attached to the wall. This would allow Tom to stand or sit during the shower depending on how he felt that day. I let him know at least the shower chair would be there if he felt tired and needed to sit and rest. Shower chairs with backrests and armrests are ideal to let Tom lean back to relax.



Next, I recommended Tom install a handheld shower head on a height adjustable mount. The handheld shower head allows Tom to aim water where ever he likes while sitting or standing in the shower. A height adjustable mount gives Tom the ability to put the shower head down and adjust the shower head at the height he wants. If Tom wants to stand and shower, he would adjust the shower head above his head. If he prefers to sit and shower, Tom would lower the height of the shower head.

Arthritis can be very nasty to our grip strength as we mature. To make sure Tom could always manage the water controls, I suggested replacing the water control that depended on twisting wrist action to a lever style handle. Lever style handles require very little effort to use.

As a rule of thumb, I help people prevent twisting their backs while reaching for soap and shampoo in the shower. I told Tom he would benefit from placing shower storage within reach in front of his body while sitting in the shower chair. Tom agreed and decided to install a corner shelf in the shower at his shoulder height. This is a great technique to prevent falls as well!

We also discussed installing one grab bar in the shower and one grab bar outside of the shower to give Tom stability while stepping in and out of the shower. Although the shower lip was only several inches high, it’s very easy for people to trip on the lip and fall. We placed the grab bars at heights that were specific for Tom’s anthropometrics. After all, Tom’s the only one using the shower!

I love customizing people’s homes!

Tom agreed to these inexpensive options. He liked the idea of being able to stand or sit when he wanted. Tom kept his freedom and dignity to shower while feeling safe at the same time.

I can’t express the satisfaction I feel when I help people get what they want. Tom chose the fixtures he wanted to keep in line with the aesthetics of his bathroom. Nothing looked like a sterile hospital or nursing home. If Tom had a visitor look at his bathroom, no one would have any idea that we made changes in order to prevent Tom from falling while showering.



While we gather with our loved ones this holiday season, I encourage you to talk to your family members about how their needs may be changing. We know that you and your family are dealing with “the old”, or the way houses are currently set up to be inaccessible. Let’s talk about “building the new”, making those changes in the home that can allow your family members to live safely and independently at home.

Call me or email me for ideas on how to talk with your family members about how they are doing taking care of themselves and their homes. I hate to brag, but I’m very good at talking about these personal things with people! In fact, let me talk to your family members for you!

With that being said, I wish you all a lovely Holiday Season! I will see you on the blog in January!

Tis the Season for Granny's Holiday Gift Guide!


Happy holidays, fellow adult children or adult grandchildren of the world! I created a lovely holiday gift guide for your consideration when purchasing a gift for dear Granny or Grandpa.

Naysayer: “You’re too late! Why didn’t you post this gift guide before Black Friday?”

Well, naysayer, I understand your frustrated cries, but I do know that there are procrastinators out there like me. If you’re taking care of yourself, your kids, and your parents, how do you even have time to plan Black Friday shopping? Haven’t you heard about how hard caregivers have it in life?

Or maybe you just need extra time to digest your holiday shopping options before making a money-based commitment. Either way, I’m trying to make it easier for you to get what your mature relatives need and want!

After much conversation with several grannies in my life, I compiled a list for your consideration this holiday season. Let the gift giving begin!

1) Roomba



The Roomba almost did not make the list this year because it’s a little controversial for people who have a hard time walking in the house.

You see, Roombas can be a little too quiet and difficult to see for grannies and grandpas. They could become a potential trip hazard! We don’t want to give the holiday experience of going to the ER!

The reasons why we decided to place Roombas on the holiday gift guide outnumber the risk for falls. As we get older, it can be harder to sweep and vacuum in your home. It’s nice to have a cute little robot scurrying around and cleaning up crumbs off the floor!

If you’re going with a Roomba for Granny this year make sure you pick one that is a contrasting color with her floor. For example if Granny has cream colored carpet, pick a black Roomba! That will help Granny see the Roomba and prevent her from tripping on it.

Also, the internet did not fail me when I researched different ways to decorate Roombas. I saw decal stickers in every color and Roomba costumes. My point is this: you can make Granny’s Roomba stand out while it works to keep her floor clean as a whistle.

Another idea is to copy off Tom from “Parks and Recreation” and mount an MP3 player to the top of Granny’s Roomba. This is like a double bonus because the Roomba is cleaning the house and entertaining your grandma with musical classics from her youth! Genius!

2) Traction cleats

Working Person’s Store

Working Person’s Store

Okay, this is a no brainer. It’s snowed in Kansas City like 500 times already this year. Granny needs some traction cleats to put on her shoes so she doesn’t slip outside!

Granny has a life, you know! She needs to get groceries, see the doctor, and show Dorothy who’s boss at Canasta. Don’t let the snow slow Granny down. Get her some traction cleats so she can make snow and ice her b****!

3) Mini Flashlights



For the past month or so, I’ve looked at my clock in the evening and thought, “Surely, it must be 10:30.” Then I come to find out it’s actually 6:45 PM!

It’s dark out early in the evening. And Granny wants to go to your kid’s school holiday performance and hear Messiah at the local community center. Granny needs more light when she is moving in and out of cars and buildings. She needs to clearly see every curb and uneven paving in the parking lot so she doesn’t fall!

Get her a mini flashlight to stow in her purse or coat pocket for her to take on the run! Granny will appreciate you helping her see the light! (High fives self for the pun.)

4) Magnetic Door Stop

Do you know what’s super annoying? Holding the door open while you’re trying to get in and out of the house with your arms full of stuff!



A magnetic door stop could make life a lot easier for Granny, especially if her balance is not as good as it used to be! Guess who’s not falling through the door (thanks to you!)? Granny’s not falling!

While you’re at it, grab a magnetic door stop for yourself!

5) Bidet Toilet Seat



It’s time for you to become Granny’s favorite family member. Behold! The bidet toilet seat!

This gem will transform Granny’s toilet time! A bidet toilet seat with an adjustable, self cleaning water hose and remote will help Granny feel fresh and so clean even more so than traditional toilet paper can. The adjustable water hose makes it easy for men, women, and children to accurately clean those tricky places. Some models even come with dryers that gently clean your bottom!

Why a remote and not a control panel that’s fixed on the side? Great question! The remote will make it easier for Granny to reach and use compared to a fixed control panel. The control panels are usually placed on the right side. That’s difficult for a left handed user or somebody with a shoulder that can’t reach to the side or back as far as they used to!

If there is no electrical outlet by the toilet, not a problem! There are non-electric options out there as well. Anything to help Granny stay independent with going to the bathroom!

Word of warning: little kids love playing with bidet toilet seats and may need supervision!

Ultimately though, the whole family might want to stop by and use Granny’s throne to try it out. You may feel hesitant right now. But once you try it, you’ll want to install one in your bathroom!

I hope this holiday gift guide will help you find the best gift for your Granny or Grandpa! If you already purchased something, tell us in the comments below! Would you consider buying any of the stuff listed above for your parent or grandparent? Would you buy it for yourself? Need more gift ideas? Contact us to help your parent or grandparent live at home for a lifetime!

Aging-In-Place Safely: How The Lighting In Your Home Can Help



Hazel Bridges is back! She kindly wrote another article to help you plan for a successful future with aging-in-place. Please click HERE to read the other article Hazel wrote for us in October.

Just a recap, aging-in-place is the idea that anyone of any means can live at home for as long as they choose to safely and independently. Thinking about how you light your home inside and out can affect your ability do the things you need and want to do.

Personally, I’ve worked with numerous adults who have a difficult time looking at medicine bottles or finding something in the kitchen because of poor lighting. It can feel frustrating to not be able to see what you’re trying to do!

Well, lucky for you, Hazel Bridges has some suggestions! She is the creator of, a website that aims to provide health and wellness resources for aging seniors. She’s a breast cancer survivor and challenges herself and others to live life to the fullest. Hazel contributed the information below for you to make the best decisions for you!



For many seniors, finding a way to safely age-in-place is a priority, but it can be an overwhelming task. Trying to take care of all the changes and modifications your home needs can be costly and stressful, and if you have health or mobility issues, it can be dangerous. It’s important to look for ways you can make your home safer and more comfortable, however, so you can stay there without issue for as long as you want.



One of the easiest ways to make your home a safer space is to take a look at the lighting in each room to make sure it’s working for you. The lights you use can have a big impact on your safety and comfort, from preventing falls to helping you see more easily when performing daily tasks, and it’s something that’s relatively easy to change without spending a ton of money. Do a little research before making any decisions so you can make sure you have the right lighting solutions for every room.

Keep reading for some great tips on how to age-in-place safely and change up the way your home is lit.

Keep lighting consistent

As we get older, our eyes change and their ability to see well after a drastic shift in light decreases drastically. It’s important, then, to make sure each room in your home has consistent lighting, with no big changes that will strain your eyes. In order to achieve this, you may need to use the same type of lighting everywhere, whether that means hiring a licensed electrician to install wiring or simply placing lamps strategically around the house.

Use task lighting



Task lighting is a big help to seniors who sometimes need a little extra assistance when working in the kitchen or enjoying an activity like knitting or woodworking. Add task lighting over the sink, near your favorite chair, or any spot around the house where you read or perform an activity. This can be a strong lamp with an adjustable arm or a battery-operated light that can be stuck anywhere you need it for convenience.

Use the right bulbs

The right bulbs for your home will depend on what type of activity you’re doing. LED lights are perfect for a variety of activities and will save you money, as they last for years and are more energy-efficient than other bulbs. Fluorescent lighting can lead to issues for many seniors who are prone to headaches, while other types of lighting can cause a glare on flooring, elevating the risk for a fall. Do a little research before choosing the bulbs you need and make sure you’re getting the right kind.

Light up the bathroom



The bathroom is a spot where many accidents occur for seniors, including falls that can be dangerous. The lighting here should be glare-free and ample, allowing you to see clearly at the sink and in the shower. If you have a vision impairment, the lighting should give you a defined view of where the toilet and sink are located, especially if your walls are painted white.

Aging-in-place safely and comfortably doesn’t have to be stressful or costly. With a little research and some planning, you can turn your home into the best possible place for your retirement years without worrying about injury or a stay in the hospital. Talk to your spouse or partner about the best modifications for your house, and remember to always hire a pro for the big jobs, especially when it comes to electricity.


Remember to include an occupational therapist to your team! Occupational therapists understand that every person has different lighting needs to do their every day tasks.

For instance, some people see better with a light bulb that emits more blue light than red light. A client may need more task lighting in the living room while another client needs more task lighting at the bathroom vanity. It depends on your abilities and daily routines. We all need varying amounts of light as well to see our best. Occupational therapists help you sort through all of the in’s and out’s of your lighting needs.

We’re also very good at talking with electricians to customize your set up!

Also, I wrote a brief article on different styles of lighting you could use in your bathroom. There’s more than one way to skin a cat! For more information on how to improve your bathroom lighting, click HERE! Wall wash lighting is my new personal favorite!

What’s your current lighting situation in your home? Do you have globe lighting in the middle of each room and randomly placed lamps? Do you have natural lighting using transom windows or skylights? I want to know! Send me pictures of your favorite lighting at home and I will post them on social media!

Tell me if you would like to learn more ways to improve lighting in different parts of the home. I would be happy to talk about it!

Happy Thanksgiving!


We sincerely hope you enjoy your Thanksgiving holiday at home with friends and family! We are thankful to serve the Kansas City metro in helping people live at home for a lifetime! Happy Thanksgiving!

Am I Really A Caregiver?

Foreword: I originally published this article in July and thought that it needed another go round on the blog. If you help out a family member, read below and see if you qualify as a caregiver. (More than likely, you probably do!) I want you to know that there are resources available to help you!

Recently, a therapist friend of mine brought up the fact that caregivers do not realize they are caregivers. My mind was blown! She was totally right. It reminded me how I used to not see myself as a caregiver to my grandparents. On a professional level, I have worked with family members in nursing homes who did not see themselves as caregivers. Lots of people do not perceive themselves as caregivers!



It seems like when people think about caregiving they imagine a kind nurse helping a sick, frail patient with some sort of self care task, like getting dressed or taking medicine. Or people think that a caregiver is a parent raising a child. Both thoughts about caregivers are correct, but let me tell you, the definition of a caregiver expands way past physically helping a person with the intimate parts of everyday life.

I talk about caregivers all the time in my blog, videos, and with clients and their families. It is long overdue for me to break down what a caregiver actually does!



A caregiver is a family member, friend, or paid professional that helps a person with activities of daily living. I understand that is a broad definition, but let me explain. Activities of daily living refer not only to self care tasks like toileting, bathing, grooming, etc., but they also refer to taking care of the home, finances, transportation, community errands, using a telephone, and so on and so on.

If you just sit for a minute and actually think about all of the seemingly small things you do a day, than you will realize that some people need help with all of those things you take for granted. Let me tell you about my first hour of a normal day. I get out of bed, put on my glasses, make the bed, go to the bathroom, brush my teeth, let the dog out, make breakfast, eat breakfast, and walk the dog. For each one of those tasks, I could go into even more detail about what I do.

There are some people who need help with every single one of those things that I do in the first hour of the day! My first hour of the day consists of my personal needs and taking care of my dog. If someone helped me with any of those things, they would be my caregiver. Is your mind blown yet?

My personal experience as a caregiver started many years ago with my wonderful grandparents. My grandmother, Granny, would ask me to help out with tasks around the house like changing the light bulbs, taking down the attic fan cover, and carrying the laundry basket up from the basement for her. (By the way, all of those things are caregiving activities!) I did not see myself as a caregiver. I saw myself as helping Granny out! I actually cherished going to my grandparent’s house and reading my list of to do’s. In my mind, that’s what you do for your family: you help your family whenever they need something.

Over time, my grandparents asked for more help around the house and going out in the community. I loved our new weekly ritual of picking them up and driving to the grocery store. Granny would chit chat with the store employees at the front of the store and at checkout. We would take our time walking the aisles while Granny asked me to reach for the products she wanted. I would push the cart and Grandpa helped me load and unload the groceries into the car and house. All of us worked at a furious pace to put the groceries away, “Hurry! The ice cream will melt!”  We ended our grocery run at the dining room table eating donuts and drinking coffee or cappuccino and catching up with each other over the past week. I had no idea that my role as a caregiver would continue to grow.

Eventually, my caregiving responsibilities included managing my grandparent’s medication and finances. I used to work as a pharmacy technician while in school, so it seemed a natural fit for me to make sure their medications were refilled and placed in their weekly medication organizer. Granny trusted me with balancing her checkbook every week and Grandpa knew I would pay the bills as soon as they came in the mail. I always made sure to do the bills and medication how they wanted to give them peace of mind.

The increase in caregiving tasks came with more time spent with my grandparents at their house. My mother and I split caregiving duties to even the load and allow us to attend to other parts of our lives, like work and school. Mom would take my grandparents to doctor’s appointments, the nail salon, the hair salon, and other errands. My grandparents were lucky enough to qualify for a personal care attendant through one of the county’s senior services programs who helped with laundry, cooking, and cleaning the house. We were fortunate to have a team of caregivers for Granny and Grandpa!

Towards the end of Granny’s life, she was able to do many of her self care tasks such as dressing, toileting, bathing, brushing teeth. Sometimes Mom helped Granny put her curlers in her hair in the evening before bed due to Granny’s arthritis in her shoulders. Granny called us when she felt sick and we would give her medicine and contact her doctor. When she passed suddenly in 2016, I felt my world shift. Of course, I missed my role as a granddaughter to Granny, but I also missed my role as a caregiver to her. I loved how Granny was my caregiver when I was a child, and I was able to be a caregiver to her in the last part of her life.

In a way, my role as a caregiver to Grandpa has greatly reduced as well. After Granny passed, Grandpa needed physical help with self care tasks in addition to taking care of the house. Grandpa now requires at least two people to help with sitting and standing during his activities of daily living 24 hours a day. Because of Grandpa’s needs for more help, he now lives in a long term care facility where the nursing staff provides the care he needs. Now, my role is back to being his granddaughter. We still continue our tradition of cappuccino and donuts every Sunday while we visit together.



I hope my personal experience as a caregiver allows you to see your role as a caregiver to others. Do you take out your neighbor’s trash? Do you mow your uncle’s lawn? Do you show your grandma how to take a selfie or post on Facebook? Do you take down your mom’s curtains to be washed? Guess what? You’re a caregiver.

As a fellow caregiver, I salute you. Caregiving is an unpaid, invisible, incredibly important job that almost all of us do and are not recognized. Caregiving is one of the hardest experiences we encounter as human beings. It demands patience and dedication to our loved ones or people we provide services to. I would like to end this article giving you a few resources because I want to make your life easier, friend!

Here are a couple of short videos to brighten your day and show you some caregiving tips: 3 Free Tips for Millennial Caregivers, How to Install a Motion Sensor Light.

Click on these links to learn how to help yourself as a caregiver: Alzheimer's Association, AARP, Caregiver Action Network, and National Alliance for Caregiving

Thank you for taking time out of your busy day! Time is precious when you help a loved one! Please comment down below with any caregiving tips you would like to share!

Seven Tips to Make Your Home Friendly for the Holidays!


During this time of the month, most people are starting to plan for Thanksgiving. Do you find yourself with the luxury (or the curse) of hosting the Thanksgiving meal?

Whatever your perspective, there’s no doubt there’s excitement over the holiday!  

We all spend time with our loved ones. The people who bring meaning to our lives. It may be family and friends gathering in our homes or families of choice.

The point is this: whoever’s coming over probably means a great deal to you.

So in addition to putting up pretty fall decorations and dreaming about cooking and baking, I need to bring up an important factor for consideration in your holiday bliss. Older adults often have a difficult time moving around in other people’s houses.

Sad, but true.



I’m sure you’ve seen Grandma struggle to step up the two stairs into your front door. Great Uncle Tito tripped on your hallway rug and accidentally kicked your Maltese who happens to look like he blends into the carpet.

We don’t want our loved ones to encounter holiday hazards in our home! The idea of someone needing medical attention on Thanksgiving may strike fear deep into the heart of every host or hostess! Unfortunately, I have worked with quite a few clients who became injured while visiting their relative’s house.



When I worked in nursing homes as an occupational therapist, I remember one particular client. She visited her granddaughter’s house for Thanksgiving and had a lovely evening with the family. As she went down the stairs from the front door to the driveway, she tripped and fell down the stairs resulting in a broken hip. This client rehabilitated in my facility and returned home. Astonishingly, this same client ended up coming back to rehabilitation because of an infection in the new hardware in her hip. She celebrated Christmas and New Year’s Day in rehab instead of at home with her family.

What can be done to prevent ruining this joyous time of year?! I’ve got seven simple tips to make your holidays visitor friendly for everyone!

1) Install more lighting at your main entrance. No matter what time you end up having Thanksgiving dinner, double check your lighting by your main entryway. My main entrance is the back door. We have motion sensor lights that easily light up our stoop, sidewalk, and driveway. Everyone can see!



Take a look at your main entryway. What lighting do you currently have? Are there spots that seem darker than others? Are the stairs well lit? If it’s dark while you’re reading this article, go outside right now! Take note of how comfortable you feel moving around the entryway with the current lighting situation. If you’re not comfortable, then something needs to be adjusted before your family comes on Thanksgiving!

Bonus tip: If you wanted to go above and beyond, install handrails on the right and left of stairs to help your family members feel confident in their balance.

2) No slipping on ice! Who knows what the weather will be like on Thanksgiving! If there is ice, take care of it right away with ice melt or kitty litter! Don’t let Aunt Rita skate into the house. She was never gifted in the sport of ice dancing to begin with.

3) Allow family members to wear their shoes inside the house for extra support and balance. Don’t be that person. You know, the one who thinks they have the cleanest carpets on the planet and absolutely cannot have people keep their shoes on. Thanksgiving is the day you let your older adult relatives wear their shoes while they teeter around in your house. Let it go! Your carpet can be cleaned and has no feelings if it’s injured!

4) Keep an armchair handy. Your squishy couch feels amazing. You sink into it at the end of a long, hard day. It’s so squishy you practically have to roll out of it!



Well guess what Grandpa has to do to stand up from your squishy couch? He has to roll off of it too, but crawling on his hands and knees kills his joints! Offer your older adult relatives a firm armchair to easily sit down and stand up. You are maintaining their dignity and saving their arthritic joints!

5) Bathroom Tips! Hopefully, you have at least a half bathroom on the main floor. If not, give me a call. But at the very least please clear clutter on the bathroom floor. You don’t need to have a bathroom scale out (It’s Thanksgiving for Pete’s sake!). You don’t need a magazine rack. You don’t need a decorative pot in every corner. Please give your relatives room to safely maneuver while using the toilet!

Also, put toilet paper in reach (and extra on hand) so they don’t have the risk of falling off the john. Do you really want to go in the bathroom and rescue Nana from the floor?

6) Remove rugs in the house. I understand that you may need a rug for people to clean off their shoes. But do you REALLY need other rugs in the house? You’re the only person who knows where all of the rugs are. I can’t tell you how many rugs I’ve tripped on in other people’s houses because I was distracted! I’m not the only one!

7) Move Fido or Fluffy into a closed off part of the house. Although animals are a huge part of the family, they may be hard for your older relatives to notice.



Help your relatives feel confident about coming to your house for Thanksgiving. It’s worth it to include these tips to prepare your home for guests to celebrate. This will make the visit more enjoyable for everyone! I am thankful every year for everyone gathering and leaving completely intact and non-injured.

If you have any questions on how to make your home visitable for your family, contact me. Please comment below on how you make it easy for your relatives to come visit during this special time of year!

How to Pay for Home Modifications or Repairs


Hello, my dearest friends! Let’s talk about the biggest hurdle to overcome when you’re thinking about home modifications or repairs to your home: money.

Many people I talk to say, “I don’t know if I can afford you.” I completely understand the dilemma. You want to make changes in your home, but your bank account isn’t too sure you can handle that. You know home modifications can help you stay safe and independent in your comfortable abode.

You’re right, home modifications are a key ingredient to keeping yourself OUT of a nursing home. But paying for them can be tricky!

I am a firm believer in thinking you don’t need to spend a ton of money to make your home safer! Unfortunately, I do run into certain problems that require more extensive home modifications as part of the solution. A common example of this predicament is when people need to use a wheelchair or power wheelchair and they cannot fit through the bathroom door.

The truth is that home modifications are an investment for you and your lifestyle. And like any investment, you need to buckle down and think about your options before making a decision.

An investment in knowledge pays the best interest.

-Benjamin Franklin



To help you make the best financial decision, I created a page devoted to financial resources on my website. This page is specific to the Kansas City area; although a lot of resources pertain to residents statewide in Missouri and Kansas.

My biggest passion is to help you live at home for a lifetime. I am a huge advocate of looking into every possibility for people to remain at home if that is their wish. Click here to see how happy Mrs. B is with her home modifications!

My zest + the power of research = Home Modification Financial Resource

I am excited to have this resource available for you because it can be confusing to figure out what financial supports exist! If you want to learn more about a particular resource, just click on the link highlighted in red. Or you can contact me to answer your questions!

I covered financial supports like: Medicaid, grants, loans, tax credits, long term care insurance, life insurance loans, resources for veterans, and Kansas City area community organizations. The focus is on financial assistance for home modifications. Please note that home modifications include home repair, household items, and equipment in addition to structural changes to the home, like building a ramp.

People ask me often if Medicare will pay for home modifications. The answer is “No”. Medicare will help pay for medical equipment with a doctor’s order, like a hospital bed. You have to pay a twenty percent copay for the medical equipment.

As of right now, there is legislation for the Medicare Advantage plans to cover simple home modifications in 2019, like grab bars and shower chairs. If it goes into effect, many people will benefit from simple fixes to their bathroom or main entryway at home.

If this legislation passes, please ask an occupational therapist on where the best placement is for grab bars in your home!!! Occupational therapists have the medical training to look at your overall needs compared to a contractor or handyman’s skills to install your equipment. Your home modifications will go smoothly if you have a team that includes an occupational therapist and a contractor!

The worst anecdote that comes to mind is of a woman, Betty, I met in a nursing home. (Names have been changed.) Betty started to notice how difficult it was to step out of the tub shower in her bathroom. She felt like her foot slipped on the floor of the tub while she picked up her other foot to step over the ledge. Betty would reach out her strong left hand to hold on to anything to steady herself. She knew it wasn’t safe to hold onto the jiggly towel rack, but she didn’t have any other choice.

Betty didn’t want to fall, especially in the bathroom! So she called a handyman to come over and put in a grab bar to feel more steady. She paid the handyman with her own funds and no financial support. With the grab bar in place, Betty felt more comfortable with taking a shower again.

Maybe Betty could’ve benefited from this? Photo by Pexels

Maybe Betty could’ve benefited from this? Photo by Pexels

When Betty was stepping out of the shower, she felt her foot slip again. She quickly reached across her body for the grab bar with her strong left hand, but it wasn’t enough. Betty slipped and fell over the tub ledge onto the bathroom floor and broke her hip.

It’s awful when home modifications, like putting in grab bars, doesn’t work out well for people like Betty. The effort and money she put in to install the grab bar to provide her safety did not turn out as planned. If she had an occupational therapist on her team, her money would not have been wasted. An occupational therapist would have helped Betty create a solution customized to her needs.

Don’t be like Betty. Be informed about making the best financial investment for you and your home! Look through this list of financial resources for home modifications. Find an occupational therapist to help you in deciding what home modifications are going to be right for you! Talk to friends and family about contractors they have hired in the past. Read this article on how to find the right contractor.

In the story above, Betty tried to prevent getting injured in her bathroom. She did a great job being proactive and recognizing she needed help. But Betty didn’t realize she needed an occupational therapist to look at the big picture for her tub shower.

I am happy to assist you in creating a team that is committed to help you stay at home! Planning home modifications in advance is much better than needing them right after an injury or illness. You need to do it before you need it!

If you know of a financial resource for home modifications that I did not list, please contact me! I would love to add it!

Hello, Shoe Lovers!

Do you identify yourself as a shoe lover? Look in your closet. Count your shoes. How many pairs do you have? New Dream reports in the U.S. the average man owns 12 pairs of shoes and the average woman owns 27 pairs.

Whoa! But I completely believe it!



Americans buy shoes for different purposes and occasions; and maybe several types of shoes for the same occasion! We can’t get enough of shoes. We buy them even if we don’t need them. Shoes may have an interesting design that speaks to us and helps us express ourselves.

Do I NEED glittery tennis shoes?


But does the glitter on the shoes represent my inner sparkle in a way that I don’t feel like I can effectively emote on my own?

Absolutely, yes!

Now, what if I were to tell you that shoes are a form of home modifications (a.k.a. changes you make in your home)?


I know. Yes, it’s true! Shoes can affect your ability to do what you need and want to do inside the home!

Shoes are like friends, they can support you, or take you down.




Last week, I talked about how footwear can help you prevent falling outside of your home on wet leaves. This week I am focusing on shoes again because they are just that important!

Lately, I have worked with people who are falling inside their home because of their shoes! I will tell you what happened to my poor friend, Rita (names have been changed).

Rita enjoys wearing slippers. They are easy for her to put on in the morning and take off at night. Slippers keep Rita’s feet warm and feel so comfortable! She only leaves the house once or twice a week, so Rita doesn’t worry about putting on shoes for outside purposes.

A couple of weeks ago, Rita’s darling son and daughter bought her a brand new recliner. The new chair had a button to put her feet up and down. The chair could also lift Rita to stand up! She could fully recline in the chair to take a nap during the day! Rita couldn’t wait to live her best life in that chair!

After her son and daughter left, Rita heard the doorbell and tried to stand up to answer it when something unimaginable happened. Rita put her feet on the ground, but felt her feet keep slipping out from underneath her! She dug her slippers into the carpet to try and regain her balance, but it didn’t work. Rita slid out of her brand new chair onto the ground in shock and unable to pull herself up. Her visitor came in through the door and found Rita. “I’m down here!”

Luckily, Rita was not physically injured, but her pride was in bad shape. She thought, “I can’t stand up anymore. I’m scared of that chair.” Rita blamed the chair, but the chair wasn’t the problem. It was her slippers!

When I visited Rita, I asked her how often she wore her slippers, “All the time!” I looked at the bottom of the soles and felt it with my hand: the surface of the sole was completely slick. No ridges. No grooves. Nothing to help Rita stop from sliding on her carpet.



I told Rita, “Your slippers are too slick against the carpet. Do you have other shoes you would like to wear?” Rita said ‘yes’ and directed me to her closet. Together, we found a pair of comfortable shoes that gave Rita more stability and balance when she sits down and stands up from her new reclining chair. The shoes had rubber soles, covered the back of her heel, and had no laces like the picture to the right.

Rita feels more confidant in her home again. She can easily get up from the chair and answer the door. Rita freely takes naps in her recliner and watches Family Feud with no concern that she will slide out of her chair again!

Although Rita’s slippers were comfortable, they took her down! The slippers were more of an enemy than a friend in my perspective. It’s amazing how changing Rita’s shoes made all the difference in the world.

Sometimes home modifications are that simple! It can take ONE change to prevent falls in your home. Home modifications don’t need to be complicated, expensive, or messy to make a difference. Consulting with an occupational therapist is the best way to find what changes will work best for you!

I am aware that some people do not like to wear shoes in the house. That is completely fine! Be careful if you find yourself slipping though! Here’s some food for thought if this is your situation:

  • Am I slipping anywhere in the house? If so, where?

  • What time of day am I slipping?

  • How much lighting is in the spot I slip?

  • What’s on my feet when I slip?

  • What type of flooring am I slipping on?

  • Have I tried to wear socks with grips on the bottom? (Not the ugly hospital socks! Cute ones from the store with grips on the bottom.)

If you answered these questions and still aren’t sure what to do, give me a call or email! I’m happy to help you problem solve!



Remember, falling isn’t just a problem for adults. It’s a problem for kids too! These exact same issues impact children. You can use the same ideas to help kiddos stay on their feet too!

I can’t tell you how many times I slipped on the linoleum in the kitchen growing up. Many an elbow was bruised. If only I had my occupational therapy know-how back in the day!

Do you know someone like Rita? If you do, ask them what shoes they like to wear in the house. Maybe traction spray on the bottom of a pair of slick slippers can give enough stick between their feet and the carpet or hard floor. Or if you need some extra input, give me a call.

What types of shoes do you wear in the house? Or do you even wear shoes in the house? Comment below! What types of tricks do you do to avoid falling inside the house? Have you made any changes when you found yourself falling? Share your experience to help others learn what they can do to be safe at home!

Four Ways to Prevent Falls during Fall!

Time moves so quickly. How is it already fall? It seems like everyone is talking about the omnipotence of pumpkin spice or their upcoming Halloween plans! (FYI: I was Frida Kahlo last year and am uncertain as to what I should be this year. Leave your suggestions in the comments below!)

I looked out the window and quite a few trees have already turned colors. In my backyard the leaves on two of the trees have turned a pale yellow and are dropping on the ground. With all of the rain in Kansas City the past several days, it feels very slick outside with the leaves on the back stoop and pavement.

“Every leaf speaks bliss to me, fluttering from the autumn tree.” -Emily Bronte



Alright, Emily Bronte. Although the leaves are very pretty to view, they turn into instant fall risks for me. I’ve almost hit the ground a couple of times while picking up branches.

So to help you and me stay upright on our feet, here is a list of four ways to prevent falls during fall!

1) Footwear

I am a firm believer in wearing whatever type of shoe you prefer. However when it precipitates outside, we need to seriously consider more practical footwear. Look for a shoe with a rubber sole that grips wet leaves and slick pavement to keep you sturdy while walking outside to the car or into school or work. I gleefully wear my rubber boots when walking my dogs on rainy days with the knowledge that I won’t slip and fall. Freedom!



If I want to wear other shoes at work or visiting friends and family, I wear my rubber boots in the car and carry my other shoes in a tote! Easy peasy! I can have my cake and eat it too!

Also consider anti slip pads for the soles of your shoes for indoor and outdoor surfaces. You place the anti slip pads to the bottom of your shoes and walk in confidence. Look for anti slip pads on Amazon or any big box store for around $10. It’s a reasonable investment to avoid falling. I don’t think you need anything as hardy as anti slip traction cleats to combat ice yet. BUT we are almost to that time of year as well.

2) Lighting

Shorter days mean less light when I leave early in the morning and arrive home in the evening. It’s hard to see slick spots on my back stoop, stairs, and sidewalk.

Home Depot

Home Depot

A simple solution is adding more light to avoid stepping in a huge puddle of mud. Solar panel pathway lighting is becoming more inexpensive and affordable to install by the walkways in and out of your house or apartment. Pathway lighting takes little effort to maintain and gives enough light to see where to safely walk. You can choose from an assortment of different designs to make your outdoors look even more beautiful.

Home Depot

Home Depot

You also want to consider mounting an automatic motion sensor light by your main entryway. When the light senses you coming towards the door, it turns on and allows you to find your key and the keyhole to quickly enter your home. Most of the automatic motion sensor lights have adjustable timers to turn off after sensing no movement. This feature conserves energy in addition to preventing any falls you may have trying to get in and out of the house.

3) Non slip outdoor flooring

My back stoop is made out of wood. Unfortunately, a lot of paint has chipped off due to the elements and being a part of the main entryway of the house. The foot traffic, sunshine, wind, and rain, and snow combined have worn the poor sucker out.

Maria Lindbergh

Maria Lindbergh

How do I fix it? Well, I could repaint the back stoop and apply a non slip coating or traction spray, like Slip Doctors, to prevent falls in the future. This is the least expensive option. You can find these items online or in store easily and slap it on your flooring. The only problem is non slip coating tends to fade away after use and time. You need to reapply the coating to ensure you stay fall free when entering and exiting your home.

Another option is to place non slip flooring on top of the existing stoop (I have to step up inside of my house anyway. I might as well shorten the distance!). Some non slip flooring that attracts my eye is recycled rubber (which can go on steps too), composite decking, paver tiles, or deck tiles. Non slip flooring would last longer than non slip coating and prevent me from slipping on my stoop when the rain and ice hits.



Lastly, you can place non slip treads on the stoop and step to give more friction to your feet when going in and out of the house. Non slip treads come in strips or tape form to make it easy to apply where you prefer. Slip Doctors sells rolls of non slip tape with different widths to give you the choice to create the length you need for your home. You can find non slip treads in all kinds of colors including clear! The price range is $15-35 per unit. I recommend you seriously consider the black non slip tread with the reflective strip to avoid falling at home.

4) Portico

A portico is a part of the roof that hangs over your main entryway. I technically do not have a portico; part of the roof hangs over the door about 12 inches, which makes it nice and dry for the first step out the door!

Sutton Group Preferred Realty

Sutton Group Preferred Realty

It would be lovely to have a portico cover my little 3’x4’ stoop to protect it from rain and snow. I wouldn’t worry about slipping on the stoop because it would remain dry.

Building a portico isn’t cheap, but there are other options. You could consider using a canopy, a patio cover, pavilion, or retractable awnings. With so many choices, it’s easy to plan and decide what will work best for your finances and aesthetics.

At the end of the day, I just don’t want you or me to fall, capiche? Look over these fall prevention tips and choose what’s going to work out best for you!

Please comment down below and tell me how you prevent falls in the fall! Let me learn your ways!

Preparing for the Costs of Long-Term Care: Tips for Seniors



The goal of Stay at Home Solutions is to do everything in our power to help you make changes in your home in order for you to live safely and independently for as long as you would like. However, the reality is sometimes “the best-laid plans of mice and men often go awry”, meaning that you can make as many changes as you would like to your home, but you may need 24 hour personal care that your family cannot help you with.

None of us like to think that we could end up in that situation. Since we are practical people, we like to share additional information on what else you can do to prepare yourself. Luckily, we found someone who enjoys helping people do the same.

Hazel Bridges is the creator of, a website that aims to provide health and wellness resources for aging seniors. She’s a breast cancer survivor and challenges herself and others to live life to the fullest. Hazel contributed the information below for you to make the best decisions for you!

Preparing for the Costs

of Long-Term Care: Tips for Seniors


It’s important to plan for your long-term care needs even if you don't end up needing it. You can never be sure if an unexpected illness or accident will suddenly change your ability to care for yourself. Though Medicare is valuable to seniors, it provides little coverage for the extensive costs of long-term care. The best thing you can do is prepare for the possibility of long-term care while you’re still able to make important decisions and look into your funding options.

Know What Types of Costs to Expect:

There are three main options for long-term senior care: nursing homes, assisted living facilities, and in-home care. According to A Place for Mom, a private room in an assisted living center costs about $90 per day while a private room in a nursing home costs $205 per day for the more intensive levels of care. In-home care costs anywhere from $112 to $192 per day, depending on the amount of time that care is required. If you have family members that can step in and help out, you can cut out some of the costs of in-home care. If you’re looking for the most affordable facility options, consider a care center in a non-urban area rather than one in the city.

Understand What Medicare and Medicaid Cover:

Long-term care services include assistance with daily living tasks such as dressing, cleaning and eating. Although Medicare can help seniors out with their required medical services, it does not cover any other aspects of long-term care. For example, Medicare covers doctor's visits, prescription drugs and hospital stays. It may also pay for a portion of the costs for short-term care in a certified nursing facility following a hospital admission, which can be helpful if you just need to recover from an accidental injury. Other than this, the program does not help with personal or long-term care services.

Unlike Medicare, Medicaid can help you cover some of the costs of long-term care, but only if you are low-income with few assets. Medicaid does pay for long-term care services in nursing homes and at home. However, states have different eligibility requirements and differ according to which services they cover.

Consider Funding Long-Term Care Yourself:

Of course, you are welcome to self-fund your long-term care if you have the means. This is a great way to avoid paying expensive premiums for insurance and have the flexibility to put your money exactly where you need it. However, this is difficult to do unless you have substantial savings built up or assets that can be liquidated. Selling your home can be a viable option if both you and your partner are moving out of the house. Before you sell, make sure you're up to date on the current home sale trends in your area. For example, homes in Smithville, Missouri have sold for an average of $215,000 in the last month.

Know About Your Insurance Options:


According to Mariner Wealth Advisors, there are two main types of long-term care insurance. These are the stand-alone policy and life insurance with an accelerated death benefit rider. Stand-alone long-term care insurance covers the expenses that aren’t taken care of by either Medicare or Medicaid. This includes assisted living, nursing homes, and at-home care. However, if you don’t end up needing care, you don’t get any benefits from the insurance. On the other hand, a death benefit rider on a life insurance policy allows you to receive benefits if you end up needing care while any unused benefits will be paid to your beneficiaries. This type of policy is more flexible but tends to have higher premiums.

Many Americans' greatest fear about aging is requiring long-term care and not being able to pay for it. This is no surprise since costs can get as high as $100,000 to $250,000. Although government programs can be valuable to seniors requiring medical services, it's important that you make alternate plans to pay for possible long-term care needs in your future.


Although planning long-term care has its benefits, this can be a difficult topic to discuss between family members. No one enjoys thinking about the possibility of needing long-term care in the future. It’s easy to put this topic on the back burner.

Some tips to make long-term care planning easier include:

  1. Reflecting on what you want if you needed long-term care

  2. Identifying family and social supports

  3. Organizing information you gather to help you make sense of everything

In my experience, families who do talk about long-term care planning do not appear as stressed or frantic when their loved one needs it. They know what to do, where to go, and how it’s being funded. Peace of mind comes with planning your long-term care needs. It’s a lot of work, but consider the process as a gift to you and your family!