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Your Booty Wants This . . .

Today, I’m talking about a highly emotional topic: the agony related to toilet paper scraping against your booty when you go to the bathroom.

I know I may lose most of my readers with this article, but it needs to be addressed! Many people feel the pain and shame of a hurting booty and don’t want to talk about it.

I’ve been there! As a healthy adult, I didn’t have any booty pain until recent years. I thought, “Maybe I should go to the doctor and talk about why my booty hurts.” But then I recoiled in fear thinking about how embarrassed I might feel. I didn’t want to talk to my doctor about my personal health and I’m a healthcare provider!

“There has to be a better way,” I thought. So I did some research and stumbled across a solution that not only helps my booty stay clean and pain free, but helps me remain independent and home for a lifetime: the toilet seat bidet.

Photo of toilet seat bidet by Kohler

Photo of toilet seat bidet by Kohler

Photo by Cadet Bidet by American Standard

Photo by Cadet Bidet by American Standard

Like most Americans, I had never encountered or used a bidet until I went to Europe a couple of years ago. I walked into my Airbnb apartment in Munich and there it was: a bidet sitting right next to the toilet.

It was lower in height than the toilet next to it and sparkling white. My host asked that we avoid using it because there was a crack in the porcelain bowl.

What a missed opportunity! I was hoping to experience the feeling of cleanliness that no toilet paper could provide.

But lo and behold, I came across another form of bidet in an unexpected location: Sapp Bros in southern Missouri.

Photo of toilet seat bidet by Smart Bidet

Photo of toilet seat bidet by Smart Bidet

“What in tarnation?” I thought as I scanned the toilet seat bidet and noted the temperature and pressure controls. In my humble opinion, toilet seat bidets are the best option in the world of bidets because you don’t have to squat as far to use it. I felt so delighted that the toilet seat bidet was in such a sparsely populated area for travelers to feel that shower fresh clean!

I tip my hat to you, Sapp Bros!

Toilet paper alone cannot clean your booty as well as water. Think about it: when you get mud on your skin, do you feel cleaner washing it off or wiping it off with toilet paper?

Compared to other methods, plain water is amazingly effective at cleaning your booty! For instance, the chemicals in wet wipes irritate the delicate booty skin and cause breakdown if used for a long period of time.

No one wants a broken down butt!

I also love that the toilet seat bidet combines the toilet, which you already have at home, with the function of a bidet! You don’t have to take up bathroom space installing a bidet at home. Instead you get the benefits of a toilet and bidet together!

Using a toilet seat bidet limits the amount of twisting in your back and pain in your shoulders and hips you would normally feel with traditional toilet paper. A toilet seat bidet would actually help you use less toilet paper (or no toilet paper at all)! Saving money by purchasing less toilet paper makes me want to moon walk with excitement!

Installing toilet seat bidets is very easy! They are all a little different depending on the manufacturer, but essentially you remove your toilet seat, bolt down the bidet attachment, and place the toilet seat back on the stool! There are non electric and electric toilet seat bidet options. The non electric bidets only need to hook up to the same water you use for the toilet while the electric option would need a GFCI outlet next to the toilet to work. Both types of toilet seat bidet allow you to adjust the nozzle where you need it most on your bum and alter the water pressure. If your toilet is close to the bathroom sink, some models can attach to hot and cold water which lets you change the water temperature on the bidet.

If you want to get a little fancy, many electric toilet seat bidets have an air dryer function. This allows you to blow gentle warm air on your booty to dry it off before you go on to the next part of your day! How fabulous!

Photo of toilet seat bidet controls by Tushy

Photo of toilet seat bidet controls by Tushy

When shopping for a toilet seat bidet, expect to pay $70 or more depending on the brand. Look closely at the toilet seat bidet controls to determine if they’re going to work well for you! Do you think the controls will be hard to read or adjust? Some bidets come with remotes just like your TV, which makes it easier to select the options you want instead of craning your neck to the side of the toilet to read the fine print on mounted controls. Learning curves can be hard!

Lastly, if you or a loved one need a taller stool to get on and off the toilet, you’re in luck! There are toilet seat bidets that come with stool risers, so you can have the best of both worlds! Toilet seat bidet and stool riser combinations are great for people who have back and hip problems or muscle weakness. This set up allows people to stay independent with going to the bathroom and cleaning the booty. I can’t tell you how many people I know cry with joy and relief at the ability to retain privacy in the bathroom!

Tell me your thoughts! Did I convert you into a bidet believer? Are you going to push your bum higher on your priority list? In my perspective, toilet seat bidets are relatively affordable. Of course there are more expensive versions, but you can find them for a pretty low cost.

Do you already own some form of bidet and want to share your experience? We want to know what brands you love and which ones don’t work! Share in the comments below if you’re going shopping for a new bidet today!

Remember, you better bi-DO it before you need it!

Tis the Season for Granny's Holiday Gift Guide!


Happy holidays, fellow adult children or adult grandchildren of the world! I created a lovely holiday gift guide for your consideration when purchasing a gift for dear Granny or Grandpa.

Naysayer: “You’re too late! Why didn’t you post this gift guide before Black Friday?”

Well, naysayer, I understand your frustrated cries, but I do know that there are procrastinators out there like me. If you’re taking care of yourself, your kids, and your parents, how do you even have time to plan Black Friday shopping? Haven’t you heard about how hard caregivers have it in life?

Or maybe you just need extra time to digest your holiday shopping options before making a money-based commitment. Either way, I’m trying to make it easier for you to get what your mature relatives need and want!

After much conversation with several grannies in my life, I compiled a list for your consideration this holiday season. Let the gift giving begin!

1) Roomba



The Roomba almost did not make the list this year because it’s a little controversial for people who have a hard time walking in the house.

You see, Roombas can be a little too quiet and difficult to see for grannies and grandpas. They could become a potential trip hazard! We don’t want to give the holiday experience of going to the ER!

The reasons why we decided to place Roombas on the holiday gift guide outnumber the risk for falls. As we get older, it can be harder to sweep and vacuum in your home. It’s nice to have a cute little robot scurrying around and cleaning up crumbs off the floor!

If you’re going with a Roomba for Granny this year make sure you pick one that is a contrasting color with her floor. For example if Granny has cream colored carpet, pick a black Roomba! That will help Granny see the Roomba and prevent her from tripping on it.

Also, the internet did not fail me when I researched different ways to decorate Roombas. I saw decal stickers in every color and Roomba costumes. My point is this: you can make Granny’s Roomba stand out while it works to keep her floor clean as a whistle.

Another idea is to copy off Tom from “Parks and Recreation” and mount an MP3 player to the top of Granny’s Roomba. This is like a double bonus because the Roomba is cleaning the house and entertaining your grandma with musical classics from her youth! Genius!

2) Traction cleats

Working Person’s Store

Working Person’s Store

Okay, this is a no brainer. It’s snowed in Kansas City like 500 times already this year. Granny needs some traction cleats to put on her shoes so she doesn’t slip outside!

Granny has a life, you know! She needs to get groceries, see the doctor, and show Dorothy who’s boss at Canasta. Don’t let the snow slow Granny down. Get her some traction cleats so she can make snow and ice her b****!

3) Mini Flashlights



For the past month or so, I’ve looked at my clock in the evening and thought, “Surely, it must be 10:30.” Then I come to find out it’s actually 6:45 PM!

It’s dark out early in the evening. And Granny wants to go to your kid’s school holiday performance and hear Messiah at the local community center. Granny needs more light when she is moving in and out of cars and buildings. She needs to clearly see every curb and uneven paving in the parking lot so she doesn’t fall!

Get her a mini flashlight to stow in her purse or coat pocket for her to take on the run! Granny will appreciate you helping her see the light! (High fives self for the pun.)

4) Magnetic Door Stop

Do you know what’s super annoying? Holding the door open while you’re trying to get in and out of the house with your arms full of stuff!



A magnetic door stop could make life a lot easier for Granny, especially if her balance is not as good as it used to be! Guess who’s not falling through the door (thanks to you!)? Granny’s not falling!

While you’re at it, grab a magnetic door stop for yourself!

5) Bidet Toilet Seat



It’s time for you to become Granny’s favorite family member. Behold! The bidet toilet seat!

This gem will transform Granny’s toilet time! A bidet toilet seat with an adjustable, self cleaning water hose and remote will help Granny feel fresh and so clean even more so than traditional toilet paper can. The adjustable water hose makes it easy for men, women, and children to accurately clean those tricky places. Some models even come with dryers that gently clean your bottom!

Why a remote and not a control panel that’s fixed on the side? Great question! The remote will make it easier for Granny to reach and use compared to a fixed control panel. The control panels are usually placed on the right side. That’s difficult for a left handed user or somebody with a shoulder that can’t reach to the side or back as far as they used to!

If there is no electrical outlet by the toilet, not a problem! There are non-electric options out there as well. Anything to help Granny stay independent with going to the bathroom!

Word of warning: little kids love playing with bidet toilet seats and may need supervision!

Ultimately though, the whole family might want to stop by and use Granny’s throne to try it out. You may feel hesitant right now. But once you try it, you’ll want to install one in your bathroom!

I hope this holiday gift guide will help you find the best gift for your Granny or Grandpa! If you already purchased something, tell us in the comments below! Would you consider buying any of the stuff listed above for your parent or grandparent? Would you buy it for yourself? Need more gift ideas? Contact us to help your parent or grandparent live at home for a lifetime!