One of my favorite topics of all time is how to prevent falls when there’s ice and snow out the door! If you live in the Kansas City metro, I reckon you’ve noticed some of the white stuff sitting outside your door.
It’s incredibly important to me to repeat repeat repeat how to prevent falls in the winter. That’s because more falls happen in the winter resulting in injuries and even death! Think about it: are you walking a little faster to get out of the cold? If you are walking faster, it’s easier to miss potentially dangerous ice on the ground!
The word is there’s going to be even more ice and snow soon. So with that being said, let’s talk about how to prevent falling while getting to and fro during this time of year!
1) Before you leave home, what’s on your feet? Athletic shoes, crocs, or slip on shoes should not be the answer! (Unless you WANT to fall on your butt!)
You need sturdy footwear that will combat against slippery ice! I recommend shoes with a rubber sole to create friction when contacting ice.
I also LOVE traction cleats because you can put them on shoes you already have at home. The traction cleats keep your body upright no matter what you’re walking on. I ain’t scared of no hilly driveways or sidewalks!
2) Put ice melt or kitty litter in sandwich bags when you’re on the go! If you drive or walk to a place that has a patch of ice, take out your bag and throw the ice melt/kitty litter in front of you. It’s a convenient way to make sure you don’t fall at the drug store or doctor’s office when you’re running errands!
Besides, you’ll be a hero to others who walk on the same pathway. Look at you!
3) Carry a small flashlight or use the light on your cell phone to lighten dark places.
Who likes black ice? No one does. We hate driving and walking on it because it’s completely invisible to us. Increase your chances of seeing black ice while walking outside by flashing a light in front of you. You may see some reflection or wetness on the ground that will let you know you need to be careful!!!!
I like flashlights that are small enough to stow in my purse, backpack, coat pocket, or attach to my keys. How could you ever forget a flashlight that’s attached to your key ring?
If you’re more tech savvy, using the torch function on your smart phone is a really easy way to light up the darkness. How could anyone ever forget their smart phones nowadays?
4) Speaking of light, make sure your outdoor lights are on at home when it’s dark. I love automatic motion sensor lights that simultaneously conserve energy and ensure your safety. You shouldn’t work extra hard to see where you’re walking when you leave or come home!
Don’t have outdoor lights? Contact me so I can help you locate the best places to add outdoor lighting! (Remember, I’m a Missouri Medicare provider!)
5) Rethink how you get in and out of the car.
When you get out of the car, place both feet flat on the ground outside the car before standing. This helps your balance! Getting in the car? Sit down on the seat first before turning your body to put both feet inside on the floor board.
Balancing on one leg while getting in and out of the car spells trouble for falls! I can’t tell you how many people I know (including myself) fall getting in and out of the car on one leg! What is this? Cirque du Soleil? I don’t think so!
6) Do you use a cane or walker? No problem! There are cane tips for ice that you can place on your cane/walker to grip the ice and snow better when you walk outside. The cane tips look like little spikes! Your cane/walker is now a legitimate weapon and tool to keep you on your feet!
People tell me they feel very secure when they don’t feel their cane slipping all over the place. And a few individuals shared how powerful they felt with their spiky canes!
7) Add a cover over your main entry door to protect you from the elements.
Who can identify struggling to place your key to unlock your door while it’s snowing, sleeting, or raining? What a miserable time! You feel frozen and frustrated while trying to simply get inside of your home!
A simple solution is placing a cover over the doorway to provide dryness while unlocking the door. I am a huge fan of porticos, which are usually an extension of the roof over the entry. You could also look into an awning, but I would be careful to see if it can withstand the harsh conditions of winter!
I hope these seven fall prevention tips will help you stay safe and intact! I’ve worked with people who’ve suffered horrific injuries from falls in the winter. Sometimes the injury is so life changing, that people cannot return to living at home like they used to! Since my goal is to help you stay at home, I need you to try at least one of these tips today to keep from falling.
After you try one the tips, contact me and let me know what you think! Did it work? Did you change something about the tip? What other ways do you prevent falls in the winter?
Remember, the best way to avoid falls and injuries is to follow these tips! Share this information with your friends and family. Be proactive! You better do it before you need it!
Happy New Year, my friends! Here at Stay at Home Solutions, we really enjoyed celebrating the holidays, but we’re even happier to get back on track with our purpose to serve the Kansas City area and beyond.
Our mission is to help people figure out what changes they need to live at home safely and independently as long as they choose.
What do I mean by making changes in the home? They could be as simple as putting an automatic sensor night light next to the bed or placing the most used dishes closer to your reach. Some changes in the home may be more extensive like installing a barrier free shower or making one entryway stepless.
Believe it or not, many people don’t have the choice of living in their own home.
Falls and injuries in the home are often the culprit to why someone needs to move out of their private abode.
Unfortunately, I’ve seen a lot of well meaning friends and family members make the unwanted decision to move their loved one into a senior living community or a nursing home. It’s hard for every party involved in this situation. No one wants to have their loved one move into an institution.
Let me help you prevent this scenario in your life! There are many preventable actions you can take today to avoid having someone else decide when you move out of your house. Make it your resolve to call us to help you navigate what actions to take!
I’ll tell you what actions Esther took to help her live in her home safely. When I saw Esther, she explained that she barely took showers because she was scared to death of falling while getting in and out of her shower.
I didn’t blame Esther at all. Looking at the shower I wondered how she managed to get in at all! The shower required her to step up eight inches and had a small, slippery built in seat.
Now, I know that doesn’t seem like a big deal to you if you’ve never had problems moving around. But it’s a BIG deal to a lot of older adults.
During my evaluation, I noticed Esther was weak and needed quite a bit of help from her caregiver to get in and out of the shower. The chronic pain in her back and legs made it more difficult to shower without falling at a moment’s notice.
Esther lives in a senior living community. The director of the community explained that the shower Esther had was newly installed. It was their version of a “walk in shower”. Naturally if Esther wanted a new shower, she could pay for it out of pocket.
Sidenote: Why don’t these communities consult with occupational therapists? We can help them save so much time and money by not installing these step up showers!
Not to my surprise, Esther was not interested in installing a barrier free shower with money from her own pocket. “What am I going to do? Not shower at all?”
During my assessment, I measured the dimensions of the shower and noted that a shower chair with a backrest and armrests could easily fit inside. The shower chair would provide firm seating for Esther instead of the slippery built in seat. I recommended she install a couple of grab bars: one outside the shower and one inside next to the shower chair.
Sadly, the bathroom did not allow enough space for us to make changes to the step up inside the shower. Esther said she would just deal with it, “Maybe it will strengthen my legs.”
Esther already had a long handled shower head to aim water wherever she needed while sitting down. Sitting down while showering saves energy and prevents falls. It also gives caregivers peace of mind to not worry about catching a slippery body!
When the contractor came to install the grab bars, I worked with him on the best placement based off of Esther’s height and reach.
I love customizing changes at home to the client’s exact needs!
Once the project was completed and everything was installed, Esther took her first shower. She gushed about it over the phone to me, “I love it so much! I feel much safer!”
On my next visit to Esther’s home, she was late to answer the door. I felt concerned at first thinking Esther had an accident and was injured. Much to my relief, Esther came to the door and told me, “I felt so good taking a shower this morning that I asked my caregiver to let me sit in there longer.”
I can’t describe how amazing it feels to help someone feel safer doing what so many of us take for granted. Every day, we bebop along getting dressed in the morning, making coffee, driving to work, vacuuming, etc. We don’t think about what it might look like when we get older or if we were to have an injury.
Now, Esther takes more showers during the week because she feels safe and comfortable. Her caregiver doesn’t worry about her falling as much while getting in and out of the shower. My work helped two people and gave peace of mind to Esther’s sons.
This anecdote is just a small slice of what I do for people in my community. It’s amazing to tell people what I do for a living: I empower people to live in their home safely. This is my purpose on this planet.
I’m challenging you to make a resolution at the top of 2019 right now. Your resolution is to take one action step towards helping you live at home for a lifetime. That action step could be many things: call me, look at my blog for ideas, watch my videos, or learn about financial resources for home modifications by clicking HERE.
Just learning about your options for making changes at home can be tremendously helpful in the future when you need it. Why wait? Do it before you need it!
“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.”
In my line of work, I find that people fight “the old” constantly. I help people find ways to live at home as long as they want, no matter what happens to them in life.
Now you may think that I’m referring to “the old” as in old people. How dare you?! On the contrary, “the old” isn’t people who are getting older! “The old” is how houses are built and set up in the past and today.
Do you have arthritis? Did you get injured in a car accident? Did the doctor inform you that you have a chronic disease? I can help you live at home despite any of those things.
“Building the new” means a couple of things to me too! Of course, “building the new” could refer to professionals in the housing industry creating accessible homes right now. But “building the new” also refers to having a new way of thinking!
Instead of thinking, “Oh, I’ve lived in this house for thirty years, and I’ve always done things this way”, I ask people to be open to the idea that you can live in your house by making minor changes that ensure your safety and independence.
One of my clients, let’s call him Tom, asked for a home evaluation to see what he could do to feel safer while using his bathroom. During assessments, I ask personal questions like, “Do you get tired when you’re showering?”
Tom told me he did feel tired while showering.
Hard fact per the CDC: the most falls that happen at home occur when people step out of the shower.
I told Tom that feeling tired while showering could make it easier for him to fall in the shower and get hurt! Tom quickly countered that he has always stood to take a shower!
My inner dialogue started engaging. I thought, “Oh no, Tom is not accepting the fact that his body is changing and he has different needs then he did decades ago.” Instead of panicking, I knew that I could come to a perfect solution for Tom to provide the support he needed.
During my assessment, I noticed Tom had no place to safely sit in his step in shower. Even if Tom did sit in the shower, the shower head would constantly spray him in the face and he would have no control of where to aim the water!
Well, I don’t want Tom to drown in his own shower!
Tom and I discussed different options on what to do with the shower. An inexpensive way was to use a shower chair that was not attached to the wall. This would allow Tom to stand or sit during the shower depending on how he felt that day. I let him know at least the shower chair would be there if he felt tired and needed to sit and rest. Shower chairs with backrests and armrests are ideal to let Tom lean back to relax.
Next, I recommended Tom install a handheld shower head on a height adjustable mount. The handheld shower head allows Tom to aim water where ever he likes while sitting or standing in the shower. A height adjustable mount gives Tom the ability to put the shower head down and adjust the shower head at the height he wants. If Tom wants to stand and shower, he would adjust the shower head above his head. If he prefers to sit and shower, Tom would lower the height of the shower head.
Arthritis can be very nasty to our grip strength as we mature. To make sure Tom could always manage the water controls, I suggested replacing the water control that depended on twisting wrist action to a lever style handle. Lever style handles require very little effort to use.
As a rule of thumb, I help people prevent twisting their backs while reaching for soap and shampoo in the shower. I told Tom he would benefit from placing shower storage within reach in front of his body while sitting in the shower chair. Tom agreed and decided to install a corner shelf in the shower at his shoulder height. This is a great technique to prevent falls as well!
We also discussed installing one grab bar in the shower and one grab bar outside of the shower to give Tom stability while stepping in and out of the shower. Although the shower lip was only several inches high, it’s very easy for people to trip on the lip and fall. We placed the grab bars at heights that were specific for Tom’s anthropometrics. After all, Tom’s the only one using the shower!
I love customizing people’s homes!
Tom agreed to these inexpensive options. He liked the idea of being able to stand or sit when he wanted. Tom kept his freedom and dignity to shower while feeling safe at the same time.
I can’t express the satisfaction I feel when I help people get what they want. Tom chose the fixtures he wanted to keep in line with the aesthetics of his bathroom. Nothing looked like a sterile hospital or nursing home. If Tom had a visitor look at his bathroom, no one would have any idea that we made changes in order to prevent Tom from falling while showering.
While we gather with our loved ones this holiday season, I encourage you to talk to your family members about how their needs may be changing. We know that you and your family are dealing with “the old”, or the way houses are currently set up to be inaccessible. Let’s talk about “building the new”, making those changes in the home that can allow your family members to live safely and independently at home.
Call me or email me for ideas on how to talk with your family members about how they are doing taking care of themselves and their homes. I hate to brag, but I’m very good at talking about these personal things with people! In fact, let me talk to your family members for you!
With that being said, I wish you all a lovely Holiday Season! I will see you on the blog in January!
Happy holidays, fellow adult children or adult grandchildren of the world! I created a lovely holiday gift guide for your consideration when purchasing a gift for dear Granny or Grandpa.
Naysayer: “You’re too late! Why didn’t you post this gift guide before Black Friday?”
Well, naysayer, I understand your frustrated cries, but I do know that there are procrastinators out there like me. If you’re taking care of yourself, your kids, and your parents, how do you even have time to plan Black Friday shopping? Haven’t you heard about how hard caregivers have it in life?
Or maybe you just need extra time to digest your holiday shopping options before making a money-based commitment. Either way, I’m trying to make it easier for you to get what your mature relatives need and want!
After much conversation with several grannies in my life, I compiled a list for your consideration this holiday season. Let the gift giving begin!
The Roomba almost did not make the list this year because it’s a little controversial for people who have a hard time walking in the house.
You see, Roombas can be a little too quiet and difficult to see for grannies and grandpas. They could become a potential trip hazard! We don’t want to give the holiday experience of going to the ER!
The reasons why we decided to place Roombas on the holiday gift guide outnumber the risk for falls. As we get older, it can be harder to sweep and vacuum in your home. It’s nice to have a cute little robot scurrying around and cleaning up crumbs off the floor!
If you’re going with a Roomba for Granny this year make sure you pick one that is a contrasting color with her floor. For example if Granny has cream colored carpet, pick a black Roomba! That will help Granny see the Roomba and prevent her from tripping on it.
Also, the internet did not fail me when I researched different ways to decorate Roombas. I saw decal stickers in every color and Roomba costumes. My point is this: you can make Granny’s Roomba stand out while it works to keep her floor clean as a whistle.
Another idea is to copy off Tom from “Parks and Recreation” and mount an MP3 player to the top of Granny’s Roomba. This is like a double bonus because the Roomba is cleaning the house and entertaining your grandma with musical classics from her youth! Genius!
2) Traction cleats
Okay, this is a no brainer. It’s snowed in Kansas City like 500 times already this year. Granny needs some traction cleats to put on her shoes so she doesn’t slip outside!
Granny has a life, you know! She needs to get groceries, see the doctor, and show Dorothy who’s boss at Canasta. Don’t let the snow slow Granny down. Get her some traction cleats so she can make snow and ice her b****!
3) Mini Flashlights
For the past month or so, I’ve looked at my clock in the evening and thought, “Surely, it must be 10:30.” Then I come to find out it’s actually 6:45 PM!
It’s dark out early in the evening. And Granny wants to go to your kid’s school holiday performance and hear Messiah at the local community center. Granny needs more light when she is moving in and out of cars and buildings. She needs to clearly see every curb and uneven paving in the parking lot so she doesn’t fall!
Get her a mini flashlight to stow in her purse or coat pocket for her to take on the run! Granny will appreciate you helping her see the light! (High fives self for the pun.)
4) Magnetic Door Stop
Do you know what’s super annoying? Holding the door open while you’re trying to get in and out of the house with your arms full of stuff!
A magnetic door stop could make life a lot easier for Granny, especially if her balance is not as good as it used to be! Guess who’s not falling through the door (thanks to you!)? Granny’s not falling!
While you’re at it, grab a magnetic door stop for yourself!
5) Bidet Toilet Seat
It’s time for you to become Granny’s favorite family member. Behold! The bidet toilet seat!
This gem will transform Granny’s toilet time! A bidet toilet seat with an adjustable, self cleaning water hose and remote will help Granny feel fresh and so clean even more so than traditional toilet paper can. The adjustable water hose makes it easy for men, women, and children to accurately clean those tricky places. Some models even come with dryers that gently clean your bottom!
Why a remote and not a control panel that’s fixed on the side? Great question! The remote will make it easier for Granny to reach and use compared to a fixed control panel. The control panels are usually placed on the right side. That’s difficult for a left handed user or somebody with a shoulder that can’t reach to the side or back as far as they used to!
If there is no electrical outlet by the toilet, not a problem! There are non-electric options out there as well. Anything to help Granny stay independent with going to the bathroom!
Word of warning: little kids love playing with bidet toilet seats and may need supervision!
Ultimately though, the whole family might want to stop by and use Granny’s throne to try it out. You may feel hesitant right now. But once you try it, you’ll want to install one in your bathroom!
I hope this holiday gift guide will help you find the best gift for your Granny or Grandpa! If you already purchased something, tell us in the comments below! Would you consider buying any of the stuff listed above for your parent or grandparent? Would you buy it for yourself? Need more gift ideas? Contact us to help your parent or grandparent live at home for a lifetime!
Hazel Bridges is back! She kindly wrote another article to help you plan for a successful future with aging-in-place. Please click HERE to read the other article Hazel wrote for us in October.
Just a recap, aging-in-place is the idea that anyone of any means can live at home for as long as they choose to safely and independently. Thinking about how you light your home inside and out can affect your ability do the things you need and want to do.
Personally, I’ve worked with numerous adults who have a difficult time looking at medicine bottles or finding something in the kitchen because of poor lighting. It can feel frustrating to not be able to see what you’re trying to do!
Well, lucky for you, Hazel Bridges has some suggestions! She is the creator of AgingWellness.org, a website that aims to provide health and wellness resources for aging seniors. She’s a breast cancer survivor and challenges herself and others to live life to the fullest. Hazel contributed the information below for you to make the best decisions for you!
For many seniors, finding a way to safely age-in-place is a priority, but it can be an overwhelming task. Trying to take care of all the changes and modifications your home needs can be costly and stressful, and if you have health or mobility issues, it can be dangerous. It’s important to look for ways you can make your home safer and more comfortable, however, so you can stay there without issue for as long as you want.
One of the easiest ways to make your home a safer space is to take a look at the lighting in each room to make sure it’s working for you. The lights you use can have a big impact on your safety and comfort, from preventing falls to helping you see more easily when performing daily tasks, and it’s something that’s relatively easy to change without spending a ton of money. Do a little research before making any decisions so you can make sure you have the right lighting solutions for every room.
Keep reading for some great tips on how to age-in-place safely and change up the way your home is lit.
Keep lighting consistent
As we get older, our eyes change and their ability to see well after a drastic shift in light decreases drastically. It’s important, then, to make sure each room in your home has consistent lighting, with no big changes that will strain your eyes. In order to achieve this, you may need to use the same type of lighting everywhere, whether that means hiring a licensed electrician to install wiring or simply placing lamps strategically around the house.
Use task lighting
Task lighting is a big help to seniors who sometimes need a little extra assistance when working in the kitchen or enjoying an activity like knitting or woodworking. Add task lighting over the sink, near your favorite chair, or any spot around the house where you read or perform an activity. This can be a strong lamp with an adjustable arm or a battery-operated light that can be stuck anywhere you need it for convenience.
Use the right bulbs
The right bulbs for your home will depend on what type of activity you’re doing. LED lights are perfect for a variety of activities and will save you money, as they last for years and are more energy-efficient than other bulbs. Fluorescent lighting can lead to issues for many seniors who are prone to headaches, while other types of lighting can cause a glare on flooring, elevating the risk for a fall. Do a little research before choosing the bulbs you need and make sure you’re getting the right kind.
Light up the bathroom
The bathroom is a spot where many accidents occur for seniors, including falls that can be dangerous. The lighting here should be glare-free and ample, allowing you to see clearly at the sink and in the shower. If you have a vision impairment, the lighting should give you a defined view of where the toilet and sink are located, especially if your walls are painted white.
Aging-in-place safely and comfortably doesn’t have to be stressful or costly. With a little research and some planning, you can turn your home into the best possible place for your retirement years without worrying about injury or a stay in the hospital. Talk to your spouse or partner about the best modifications for your house, and remember to always hire a pro for the big jobs, especially when it comes to electricity.
Remember to include an occupational therapist to your team! Occupational therapists understand that every person has different lighting needs to do their every day tasks.
For instance, some people see better with a light bulb that emits more blue light than red light. A client may need more task lighting in the living room while another client needs more task lighting at the bathroom vanity. It depends on your abilities and daily routines. We all need varying amounts of light as well to see our best. Occupational therapists help you sort through all of the in’s and out’s of your lighting needs.
We’re also very good at talking with electricians to customize your set up!
Also, I wrote a brief article on different styles of lighting you could use in your bathroom. There’s more than one way to skin a cat! For more information on how to improve your bathroom lighting, click HERE! Wall wash lighting is my new personal favorite!
What’s your current lighting situation in your home? Do you have globe lighting in the middle of each room and randomly placed lamps? Do you have natural lighting using transom windows or skylights? I want to know! Send me pictures of your favorite lighting at home and I will post them on social media!
Tell me if you would like to learn more ways to improve lighting in different parts of the home. I would be happy to talk about it!
We sincerely hope you enjoy your Thanksgiving holiday at home with friends and family! We are thankful to serve the Kansas City metro in helping people live at home for a lifetime! Happy Thanksgiving!
Foreword: I originally published this article in July and thought that it needed another go round on the blog. If you help out a family member, read below and see if you qualify as a caregiver. (More than likely, you probably do!) I want you to know that there are resources available to help you!
Recently, a therapist friend of mine brought up the fact that caregivers do not realize they are caregivers. My mind was blown! She was totally right. It reminded me how I used to not see myself as a caregiver to my grandparents. On a professional level, I have worked with family members in nursing homes who did not see themselves as caregivers. Lots of people do not perceive themselves as caregivers!
It seems like when people think about caregiving they imagine a kind nurse helping a sick, frail patient with some sort of self care task, like getting dressed or taking medicine. Or people think that a caregiver is a parent raising a child. Both thoughts about caregivers are correct, but let me tell you, the definition of a caregiver expands way past physically helping a person with the intimate parts of everyday life.
I talk about caregivers all the time in my blog, videos, and with clients and their families. It is long overdue for me to break down what a caregiver actually does!
A caregiver is a family member, friend, or paid professional that helps a person with activities of daily living. I understand that is a broad definition, but let me explain. Activities of daily living refer not only to self care tasks like toileting, bathing, grooming, etc., but they also refer to taking care of the home, finances, transportation, community errands, using a telephone, and so on and so on.
If you just sit for a minute and actually think about all of the seemingly small things you do a day, than you will realize that some people need help with all of those things you take for granted. Let me tell you about my first hour of a normal day. I get out of bed, put on my glasses, make the bed, go to the bathroom, brush my teeth, let the dog out, make breakfast, eat breakfast, and walk the dog. For each one of those tasks, I could go into even more detail about what I do.
There are some people who need help with every single one of those things that I do in the first hour of the day! My first hour of the day consists of my personal needs and taking care of my dog. If someone helped me with any of those things, they would be my caregiver. Is your mind blown yet?
My personal experience as a caregiver started many years ago with my wonderful grandparents. My grandmother, Granny, would ask me to help out with tasks around the house like changing the light bulbs, taking down the attic fan cover, and carrying the laundry basket up from the basement for her. (By the way, all of those things are caregiving activities!) I did not see myself as a caregiver. I saw myself as helping Granny out! I actually cherished going to my grandparent’s house and reading my list of to do’s. In my mind, that’s what you do for your family: you help your family whenever they need something.
Over time, my grandparents asked for more help around the house and going out in the community. I loved our new weekly ritual of picking them up and driving to the grocery store. Granny would chit chat with the store employees at the front of the store and at checkout. We would take our time walking the aisles while Granny asked me to reach for the products she wanted. I would push the cart and Grandpa helped me load and unload the groceries into the car and house. All of us worked at a furious pace to put the groceries away, “Hurry! The ice cream will melt!” We ended our grocery run at the dining room table eating donuts and drinking coffee or cappuccino and catching up with each other over the past week. I had no idea that my role as a caregiver would continue to grow.
Eventually, my caregiving responsibilities included managing my grandparent’s medication and finances. I used to work as a pharmacy technician while in school, so it seemed a natural fit for me to make sure their medications were refilled and placed in their weekly medication organizer. Granny trusted me with balancing her checkbook every week and Grandpa knew I would pay the bills as soon as they came in the mail. I always made sure to do the bills and medication how they wanted to give them peace of mind.
The increase in caregiving tasks came with more time spent with my grandparents at their house. My mother and I split caregiving duties to even the load and allow us to attend to other parts of our lives, like work and school. Mom would take my grandparents to doctor’s appointments, the nail salon, the hair salon, and other errands. My grandparents were lucky enough to qualify for a personal care attendant through one of the county’s senior services programs who helped with laundry, cooking, and cleaning the house. We were fortunate to have a team of caregivers for Granny and Grandpa!
Towards the end of Granny’s life, she was able to do many of her self care tasks such as dressing, toileting, bathing, brushing teeth. Sometimes Mom helped Granny put her curlers in her hair in the evening before bed due to Granny’s arthritis in her shoulders. Granny called us when she felt sick and we would give her medicine and contact her doctor. When she passed suddenly in 2016, I felt my world shift. Of course, I missed my role as a granddaughter to Granny, but I also missed my role as a caregiver to her. I loved how Granny was my caregiver when I was a child, and I was able to be a caregiver to her in the last part of her life.
In a way, my role as a caregiver to Grandpa has greatly reduced as well. After Granny passed, Grandpa needed physical help with self care tasks in addition to taking care of the house. Grandpa now requires at least two people to help with sitting and standing during his activities of daily living 24 hours a day. Because of Grandpa’s needs for more help, he now lives in a long term care facility where the nursing staff provides the care he needs. Now, my role is back to being his granddaughter. We still continue our tradition of cappuccino and donuts every Sunday while we visit together.
I hope my personal experience as a caregiver allows you to see your role as a caregiver to others. Do you take out your neighbor’s trash? Do you mow your uncle’s lawn? Do you show your grandma how to take a selfie or post on Facebook? Do you take down your mom’s curtains to be washed? Guess what? You’re a caregiver.
As a fellow caregiver, I salute you. Caregiving is an unpaid, invisible, incredibly important job that almost all of us do and are not recognized. Caregiving is one of the hardest experiences we encounter as human beings. It demands patience and dedication to our loved ones or people we provide services to. I would like to end this article giving you a few resources because I want to make your life easier, friend!
Here are a couple of short videos to brighten your day and show you some caregiving tips: 3 Free Tips for Millennial Caregivers, How to Install a Motion Sensor Light.
Click on these links to learn how to help yourself as a caregiver: Alzheimer's Association, AARP, Caregiver Action Network, and National Alliance for Caregiving.
Thank you for taking time out of your busy day! Time is precious when you help a loved one! Please comment down below with any caregiving tips you would like to share!
During this time of the month, most people are starting to plan for Thanksgiving. Do you find yourself with the luxury (or the curse) of hosting the Thanksgiving meal?
Whatever your perspective, there’s no doubt there’s excitement over the holiday!
We all spend time with our loved ones. The people who bring meaning to our lives. It may be family and friends gathering in our homes or families of choice.
The point is this: whoever’s coming over probably means a great deal to you.
So in addition to putting up pretty fall decorations and dreaming about cooking and baking, I need to bring up an important factor for consideration in your holiday bliss. Older adults often have a difficult time moving around in other people’s houses.
Sad, but true.
I’m sure you’ve seen Grandma struggle to step up the two stairs into your front door. Great Uncle Tito tripped on your hallway rug and accidentally kicked your Maltese who happens to look like he blends into the carpet.
We don’t want our loved ones to encounter holiday hazards in our home! The idea of someone needing medical attention on Thanksgiving may strike fear deep into the heart of every host or hostess! Unfortunately, I have worked with quite a few clients who became injured while visiting their relative’s house.
When I worked in nursing homes as an occupational therapist, I remember one particular client. She visited her granddaughter’s house for Thanksgiving and had a lovely evening with the family. As she went down the stairs from the front door to the driveway, she tripped and fell down the stairs resulting in a broken hip. This client rehabilitated in my facility and returned home. Astonishingly, this same client ended up coming back to rehabilitation because of an infection in the new hardware in her hip. She celebrated Christmas and New Year’s Day in rehab instead of at home with her family.
What can be done to prevent ruining this joyous time of year?! I’ve got seven simple tips to make your holidays visitor friendly for everyone!
1) Install more lighting at your main entrance. No matter what time you end up having Thanksgiving dinner, double check your lighting by your main entryway. My main entrance is the back door. We have motion sensor lights that easily light up our stoop, sidewalk, and driveway. Everyone can see!
Take a look at your main entryway. What lighting do you currently have? Are there spots that seem darker than others? Are the stairs well lit? If it’s dark while you’re reading this article, go outside right now! Take note of how comfortable you feel moving around the entryway with the current lighting situation. If you’re not comfortable, then something needs to be adjusted before your family comes on Thanksgiving!
Bonus tip: If you wanted to go above and beyond, install handrails on the right and left of stairs to help your family members feel confident in their balance.
2) No slipping on ice! Who knows what the weather will be like on Thanksgiving! If there is ice, take care of it right away with ice melt or kitty litter! Don’t let Aunt Rita skate into the house. She was never gifted in the sport of ice dancing to begin with.
3) Allow family members to wear their shoes inside the house for extra support and balance. Don’t be that person. You know, the one who thinks they have the cleanest carpets on the planet and absolutely cannot have people keep their shoes on. Thanksgiving is the day you let your older adult relatives wear their shoes while they teeter around in your house. Let it go! Your carpet can be cleaned and has no feelings if it’s injured!
4) Keep an armchair handy. Your squishy couch feels amazing. You sink into it at the end of a long, hard day. It’s so squishy you practically have to roll out of it!
Well guess what Grandpa has to do to stand up from your squishy couch? He has to roll off of it too, but crawling on his hands and knees kills his joints! Offer your older adult relatives a firm armchair to easily sit down and stand up. You are maintaining their dignity and saving their arthritic joints!
5) Bathroom Tips! Hopefully, you have at least a half bathroom on the main floor. If not, give me a call. But at the very least please clear clutter on the bathroom floor. You don’t need to have a bathroom scale out (It’s Thanksgiving for Pete’s sake!). You don’t need a magazine rack. You don’t need a decorative pot in every corner. Please give your relatives room to safely maneuver while using the toilet!
Also, put toilet paper in reach (and extra on hand) so they don’t have the risk of falling off the john. Do you really want to go in the bathroom and rescue Nana from the floor?
6) Remove rugs in the house. I understand that you may need a rug for people to clean off their shoes. But do you REALLY need other rugs in the house? You’re the only person who knows where all of the rugs are. I can’t tell you how many rugs I’ve tripped on in other people’s houses because I was distracted! I’m not the only one!
7) Move Fido or Fluffy into a closed off part of the house. Although animals are a huge part of the family, they may be hard for your older relatives to notice.
Help your relatives feel confident about coming to your house for Thanksgiving. It’s worth it to include these tips to prepare your home for guests to celebrate. This will make the visit more enjoyable for everyone! I am thankful every year for everyone gathering and leaving completely intact and non-injured.
If you have any questions on how to make your home visitable for your family, contact me. Please comment below on how you make it easy for your relatives to come visit during this special time of year!
Hello, my dearest friends! Let’s talk about the biggest hurdle to overcome when you’re thinking about home modifications or repairs to your home: money.
Many people I talk to say, “I don’t know if I can afford you.” I completely understand the dilemma. You want to make changes in your home, but your bank account isn’t too sure you can handle that. You know home modifications can help you stay safe and independent in your comfortable abode.
You’re right, home modifications are a key ingredient to keeping yourself OUT of a nursing home. But paying for them can be tricky!
I am a firm believer in thinking you don’t need to spend a ton of money to make your home safer! Unfortunately, I do run into certain problems that require more extensive home modifications as part of the solution. A common example of this predicament is when people need to use a wheelchair or power wheelchair and they cannot fit through the bathroom door.
The truth is that home modifications are an investment for you and your lifestyle. And like any investment, you need to buckle down and think about your options before making a decision.
An investment in knowledge pays the best interest.